Seven Deadly Sub Sins

When you think of submission, what is it that you think a Goddess wants from you? Whilst every Domme has different preferences, it's highly likely that what you think she wants, and what she ACTUALLY wants, are not the same thing.

All too often, subs fall into these pitfalls and turn what could be an interesting dynamic into a source of boredom. 

1. You Think Only Of Yourself
If you even think of starting the conversation by describing how you feel or what you want, take a minute to reflect. We are all very busy, and we will categorise you in how you speak with us into someone we are interested in or someone we will ignore. Don't phrase a message out of the blue saying "I want to worship your ass" (So does everyone), "Fuck you're amazing" (Correct. Your point?), "I really hope you don't tell my wife *inserts wifes number* that I like wearing panties *inserts pic in panties* (literally, fuck off). The proper way is to politely introduce yourself, put forward the question you would like to ask, and provide any relevant information.

2. You Forget Your Manners
Unless you have built a very close relationship with your Domme, don't make the mistake of speaking to her in the same way you would a friend. You should always be polite, have good manners, and be eloquent. Think of speaking to us in the same way you would your boss at a new job, and take as much care in how you come across. This can be relaxed once you get to know each other, but a new relationship must be built on evidence that you respect her.

3. You Forget She is a Human
Please don't be someone who replies to a tweet where we are obviously having a hard time saying "wow so gorgeous". Work with us. We have mental health issues. We have physical health issues. We have bereavements. The single most important factor of a sub I will invest my time in is who has supported me without expecting anything sexual in return.

4. You Talk Too Much
We don't need to know everything you think. We don't need to know everything you feel. Respect our time. And for the love of God, don't give feedback that hasn't been asked for, especially on clips we have put passion into. 

5. You Set Unrealistic Expectations
We are working on time differences! So yes, there might be a time I don't reply, because I'm asleep/busy. Subscribing for $10 to a fanclub doesn't mean you get instant access to me. I'm busy and you'll get a reply when I get to you.

6. You Talk Too Little
This is especially true on fanclubs. There is nothing worse than posting something and having nobody reply, or speaking to someone who cannot carry a conversation to save their life. This is also applicable if we have been talking in depth, and then you just decide to never speak again. Stop lurking, lurker.


7. The Cardinal Sin: YOU GHOST HER WITHOUT WARNING
This right here is the worst thing you can do. We are very understanding. We know that sometimes you need a break, you need to slow your spending, you have family commitments, you're working on a busy  work project, you're in ill health. Simply inform us that you are likely to be busy for x weeks, and we will either do our best to support you, or send you on your way with a smile and look forward to return.

IT'S SO EASY. And yet so many subs fuck up here. You have no idea how upsetting it is to have spoken to someone for months, only one day to find they have blocked you/deleted their account/stopped replying. I invest a great deal of time, love, passion, and kindness into my relationships with subs, and it really does hurt when you feel someone either greatly pull away or straight up disappear. It makes us afraid for our income, and hurt that someone could see us as so disposable that they wouldn't even give us the benefit of a heads up. 


So, now you know my thoughts on how to avoid the failings that 80% of prospective subs will do without even realising. What do you think to this? 

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